Ruth Buckland Counselling Bromley, Kent

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Qualified and experienced Counsellor, registered member of The British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)
I offer a safe, confidential counselling service where you are free to talk openly and honestly about what is going on for you or what you are finding difficult.
My counselling practise is situated within walking distance of central Bromley so easily accessible from all of the Borough including Hayes, Shortlands, West Wickham, Beckenham, Orpington and most of South East London.

Working through the Coronavirus situation

Due to continuing uncertain times and in line with government guidelines I am still unable to offer face to face sessions; however I am able to offer Telephone, FaceTime, Whatsapp or Skype Sessions.

Please contact me by phone on 07715 933 824 or click here to email me if you would like an informal chat, have any questions about my service or to arrange a initial session. Take care and look after yourself.

My Aim

As your Counsellor, I will listen and help you to gain a better understanding of your present situation. When emotions run high, thoughts and feeling you are experiencing may seem confusing and overwhelming, trying to manage them almost impossible . Often for a while anyway this can be ignored and pushed to the back of the mind but the thoughts and feelings may bounce back unexpectedly creating a situation that is too difficult to deal with appropriately. Anxiety, depression and stress may occur along with other difficulties and this may prevent you from leading the life that you want for yourself.

Every person is unique so I will draw on reputable theories effectively in order to tailor my approach to suit your needs. The therapeutic relationship we have is vital to the process of the work, so to help with that I will create a sense of safety, a trusting and calm space, understanding and free of prejudices or judgement. This environment will help you to feel you can explore what is going on for you, look at the struggles and challenges you are experiencing now, understand your past, with a view to helping you find the best ways forward at a pace to match and respect your needs. To learn more about how I work click here .

"Thank you for all your help and support over the last few months. My whole world crumbled when I lost my husband but I am learning to rebuild a different life, not the life I wanted, but a life I can live. Thank you Ruth "*

Regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation, race, culture or ethnic origin, you are welcome into my service.

All genders can find therapy very helpful and positive as sometimes friends and relatives are too close to help with your struggles and challenges. You may feel they will not listen to you or understand you, you may feel they will judge you and it might spoil the relationship.

Examples of what kind of challenges I can help you with

  • Bereavement and grief
  • Domestic Abuse/ Violence
  • Depression, anxiety and stress
  • Isolation and loneliness
  • Loss
  • Bullying
  • Low self-esteem and self-confidence
  • Trauma
  • Identity
  • Major life changes
  • Women’s issues
  • Family issues
  • Child related issues
  • Relationship issues
  • Work-related issues and redundancy

  • As your counsellor I can offer both short and long term counselling depending on your needs. For some clients, 6 sessions or less may be sufficient and for other clients an open ended therapy is more appropriate. Either way we can agree to a number of sessions initially and then review this on a regular basis to make sure your needs are being met; your views around this matter are vital.

    Counselling for Domestic Abuse/Violence

    I have a great insight into the impact of living in an abusive/violent relationship, when staying seems the only option, as leaving seems almost impossible. Relationships can be extremely abusive even without the violence. An abusive relationship is where one persons exerts power and control over another via a range of behaviour, some extremely subtle which outsiders may not even recognise. The detrimental effect on the victim can be enormous and be long lasting.

    I will never tell you to leave your relationship nor will I tell you to stay. As your counsellor we can look at what is going on for you, try to understand the dynamics of the relationship and explore your choices even when your situation feels overwhelming. For more about my domestic violence and abuse trauma led counselling approach please click here .

    "I was reluctant to attend in the beginning as I did not want anyone else telling me what to do, think or feel. I soon learn this is not what counselling is about. You have allowed me to be me, to own my life and therefore beIieve I can change it. Thank you Ruth, "*

    This specialist Domestic Abuse counselling service is located in Bromley, within easy walking distance of Bromley South Station. The counselling practice is located in a quiet room in my home with good transport links from Hayes, Shortlands, West Wickham, Beckenham, Petts Wood, Orpington, Biggin Hill, Shirley, Croydon and all South East London.

    Please contact me by phone on 07715 933 824 or click here to email me if you would like an informal chat, have any questions about my service or to arrange an initial session.

    If you contact me by phone and I am not available then please leave a message, with your details and if it is safe for me to get back to you. I will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you

    Fee: 40 for a 50 minute session. click here for further information

    Whether you live in Bromley, Beckenham, Hayes, Shortlands, West Wickham, Petts Wood, Orpington, South East London or other surrounding areas, this accessible, flexible and affordable counselling service is available for you.

    *Quote taken from the client and with their permission."


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    tel: 07593 233911